Moving Past Divorce: The Divorced Single Mom

By |2017-09-29T15:38:25+00:00September 14th, 2017|Co-Parenting, Divorce|0 Comments

You are a divorced, single mom, and you’ve had to heal from the pain of your divorce plus take on the responsibility of childcare. You also have to put food on the table, a roof over the family’s head and, at times deal with an irrational ex-husband. On top of those things, you naturally want to date and hopefully enjoy a fulfilling sex life. How ever will you do it?

Well, here’s our best answer: Handle these situations with the courage and patience you have learned through your marriage and divorce. Don’t let the dust settle under your feet. Get all the support you can get through this time. We want you to know that you aren’t alone in this process and that what you may be experiencing is completely normal. That’s why we’ve created a list of challenges you may endure as a divorced single mom.

Here are six situations you might experience as a divorced single mom:

  1. Trouble Healing From your Divorce:

You will experience difficulty when attempting to move on from your divorce. And you won’t fully be able to do this until you ‘ve let yourself heal from the pain you feel. You know the old saying “you have to feel it to heal it”, it’s true. Finding a therapist to talk to, and who can help you sort through your emotions can be very helpful in the healing process.

  1. Parenting Issues:

Parenting is challenging enough. When you add divorce in the mix, parenting can often times feel overwhelming. This is normal. Your children are going through a divorce just as you are so they may act out from time to time, maybe even all of the time depending on your unique situation. If you are experiencing a tough time parenting you might want to look into support groups for children, or therapy for children. Therapy can help kids work through the intense emotions they may feel during a divorce.

  1. Changing Finances:

It’s been studied by the U.S. Census Bureau that the average woman’s family income drops by 37% after divorce. In simpler terms, women suffer more financially than men do from divorce. This may not be the case for every woman but if this is you, this is the perfect time to do some deep soul searching. What are your passions? What can you make a nice living doing that will help you meet your financial goals?

  1. Going on Horrible Dates:

Once you’ve moved on from your divorce and you are ready to pick up the missing pieces to your life’s puzzle, you’ll move back into the dating scene. Your first few dates will most likely make you uncomfortable and feel strange. Don’t worry – it always feels a bit strange at first. It gets better, I promise.

  1. A New Sex Life:

There is nothing like the stress of divorce and horrible dates to get you off your game, and make you feel further away from ever having another meaningful and fulfilling romantic relationship. But as time goes on you’ll become more comfortable with the idea of a new partner and a new sex life. Remember, getting to the point where you are ready for this takes time, and should not be rushed.

  1. Dealing With an Irrational Ex-Husband:

Dealing with an irrational ex-husband might not be the case in your unique situation. However, a lot of single divorcees deal with this. Many divorced women have experienced behavior from their ex-husbands that is best described as narcissistic and passive aggressive. Reading articles like this and joining support groups for women like you are excellent resources for dealing with this type of behavior.

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